My Journey & Research Conclusions

When our beautiful 27-year-old daughter, Ellie, suddenly and unexpectedly passed over, I hoped and felt that she was still somewhere, and I knew I would literally move heaven and earth to find her.  However, I didn't want to fool myself into some kind of fantasy about life after death. I really am a truth seeker, and I have carefully documented and dated every experience, which has been incredibly useful in confirming exactly what occurred rather than relying on memory.

Since January 2020, I have spent hours researching, watching YouTube videos, searching websites, linking to groups, reading books and so on. Links and information about all of this can be found on the research and resources page. I have had readings from mediums, travelled on shamanic journeys, obtained profound answers to my deepest questions, developed and grown my ability to meditate, and, through training as a clinical hypnotherapist, discovered how to help others connect with their loved ones across the veil.

I want to share with you the information I gathered and the ways of connecting with loved ones across the veil, which will help ensure that you continue the bond with those who have gone on ahead and crossed the veil. In doing so, I hope to ease pain by opening up minds to the greater reality, helping you move from hoping beyond hope that your loved one is still somewhere to knowing where they are and continuing communication with them.

If you have never been to one before, it can be a scary thought to contact a medium. However, it is worth being brave, carrying out careful research, and choosing a good medium. Looking at the medium section on the research and resources page should help.

Visiting a local medium

I was very fortunate to know a local medium before Ellie passed and who Ellie had visited several times over the years before she transitioned. She was the first person I contacted to try to connect with Ellie. I was in so much pain that if Ellie had not been there and able to provide evidence that she still existed, her personality and memory intact, I did not know how I would be able to continue my existence here. Fortunately, Ellie came through, bringing much evidence that she was still herself and knew what was going on in our lives. For that, I am forever grateful to the local medium as I have continued to have sessions with her once a year. She always makes an amazing connection to Ellie, and I have learnt so much from her. 

Do I hear my parents and Ellie telepathically?

After each of my parents passed, I was able to hear their voices in my head, and now I can hear Ellie's. I questioned myself on numerous occasions as to whether I was deluding myself or if it was really real. When I doubt myself now, I think back to an event in 2022. I was driving, with tears streaming down my face as yet another wave of grief hit me when I saw a rainbow. I sensed my parents and Ellie in my car. I thanked my mum for the rainbow, as rainbows are a sign from her and the words "We are here" came into my head. Two weeks later, I had a reading with a medium accredited by Helping Parents Heal, and during that reading, the medium stated that my mum had come in and said, "Don't panic, don't worry, we are with you, WE ARE HERE" Exactly the same words as I had heard in my head a couple of weeks before. Events like this enabled me to accept that I was communicating with my loved ones across the veil. 

What is the voice I hear in my head like?

People have asked me what it is like when I hear a voice in my head. It is hard to describe - it definitely comes into my head very quickly, quicker than I could think those words. They used to be more prevalent when I was upset about their not being here in the physical, but now it can be any time. I know whether it is Ellie, my Mum or my Dad, I can just sense it. I am not sure if I am hearing words and sensing their presence or hearing the sound of their voice in my head. It could be both! They phrase things and use terminology in the way they would do when they were here; it is difficult to analyse! 

Shamanic Journeying

When Ellie passed, I found a great counsellor who was also a shamanic teacher. We went on many guided Shamanic journeys together. Ellie was always there, usually wearing a dark blue velvet cloak with a hood. On many occasions, she brought me a cloak too. Despite meditating/journeying over Zoom in our respective homes, my teacher and I often found synchronicities in our journeys. 

Here is an extract from my journals of one such experience we had on 15 April 2021: 

We went on a journey to talk to the ancient version of me to see if there was anything she wanted to tell me and any advice my old self would give my current self. Ellie was there, as was a tiger who was very quiet and docile. At times, it seemed like Ellie was leading him by a collar, but there was no collar. Anyway, they both came with me along the path to a cave. 

Once in the cave, there was a table, and I was vaguely aware of my grandmothers sitting on either side of the ancient me and then I asked my questions. The advice was, "Be brave, push all frontiers to bring in the light" (Talking with my teacher afterwards, we discussed how fear and doubt are interwoven, so maybe this was about not having doubt, too). 

At one point, I felt almost as if I was lifting out of my body, and they (my grandmothers, I think) or some other voice said, "You are ascending". No idea what this means. (At that time, I really didn't have any idea what it meant, but now I think it means evolving/growing spiritually)

I sensed Ellie fleetingly. Her sister (who is living) was standing behind the ancient me, and my mum was somewhere. Towards the end of the journey, Ellie hugged me and said, "Keep trying." I felt this was about continuing to try to connect with her. Ellie and the tiger came part the way out with me but not the whole way back.

Talking with my teacher about her experience journeying at the same time as me, she recounted she saw a bear at the entrance to the cave; it was a very matriarchal bear, which I think reflects the team of women I was with. The bear roared, which my teacher explained was a sign for her to bring me back, but the bear's roar was answered with another roar, and my teacher thought that was not a bear's roar; it was a tiger's roar, and she felt it was my tiger, acknowledging it was time to return. My teacher had not worked with tigers before, and she asked me what I felt the tiger brought; I said strength and determination. 

There is a beautiful addition to this experience less than a month later, on 25 May 2021. I went with my elder daughter for a reading with the local medium we know. Before I went, I asked if I could l have confirmation that Ellie really was with me on my shamanic journeys. The medium asked my daughter,  "Have you worked with tigers? Do you know what that means? Have you been on safari? Have you worked in Africa? You're not working out in Africa where there are tigers, are you ?" My daughter responded by shaking her head, so she turned to me and asked me if it meant anything to me. I said it might and recounted my shamanic experience. The medium's response was, "Wow, you know that's so beautiful because what I am learning at the moment …and I feel Ellie is watching me …..is to become a Shaman and do the shamanic journeying and I have actually done that this morning". How amazing was that!

Meeting Sally

The experience that really shifted my grief was through a medium who is now a very dear friend, Sally Stacey. This occurred in 2022 and was a mind-blowing experience that shifted me from hoping there was an afterlife to knowing there is. Sally has an extraordinary form of mediumship and experiences many phenomena. She facilitates real-time, interactive conversations between loved ones in the realm of spirit and us here. I am immensely grateful to have found her.

The conversations and connections I have had with Ellie through Sally have profoundly impacted my grief; they feel like a two-way conversation with our lovely daughter.

Sally connects to the loved one in her garden, and records sound. She creates a soundwave, which she plays when she meets the client on Zoom. The loved one then uses the sound wave to interact and speak. Although the sound in the waves didn't resemble Ellie's voice, I could detect the intonation and tone within them. Sally helped me understand what Ellie said by recounting and mouthing the words. Gradually, I tuned into the sounds and could pick out the occasional word. I was able to ask questions and get answers in real-time. Finally, I was conversing directly with my daughter. 

Live interactive conversations with those across the veil are only a small part of the tangible evidence that Sally has recorded, and her mediumship continues to evolve. We are currently editing a book that contains the experiences of 20+ parents through her mediumship. It will be published in early 2025, and I will post a link when it is complete. 

I also offer hypnotherapy sessions to connect with your loved ones across the veil through Sally's community, The Heart Smiles Circle Community, whose Facebook group can be found here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/916182745754142  This group is currently for parents with children in Spirit. Sally also has a Facebook page called Spirit Communication & More, where anyone can follow the incredible developments in Spirit Communication as they unfold.  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61553911658342

On the Research and Resources page in the Objective Spirit Communication & Physical Phenomena section, there are links to the evidence Sally has recorded and a wonderful clip where Ellie comes through using what sounds like her own vocal tone in a Zoom meeting—absolutely amazing! 

There is also a link to a clip of the very first time I heard voice from spirit whilst conducting a connection session with a client, physical evidence of the presence of spirit. This was, of course, amazing, and I am very grateful to Sally for her ability to hear what is being said and to her team in spirit, Symphony, who are helping. 

In addition, there is a link to the highly respected physical medium, Stewart Alexander, whose circle Sall and I have both had the privilege of sitting in.

Zach's House

In recent years, I have joined Zach's house. This is a group of parents in the UK who meet every Tuesday on Zoom and meditate together often to Monroe Institute meditations. Martin and Krista, who run Zach's house with their son Zach, in spirit, are amazing. They, like me, set out to find their child when he "went home". They have created a psychomanteum in their house and have a lot of technical equipment which is capturing physical phenomena. Links to Zach's house, which is for parents who have children across the veil, are in the organisations section on the Research and Resources page.

Here is an example of an experience I had through meditation, which just kept unfolding! Tuesday 4 April 2023 - Zach's House Meditation - Meditation called Bilocation created by The Munroe Institute.

I imagined I was sitting on the decking in our previous house and that a TV screen hovering over the patio was in front of me. The scene on the TV was my daughter Ellie sitting by a small stream, putting her hand leisurely in the water and letting it flow around. 

As instructed in the meditation, I stepped into the scene, and suddenly, the grass around Ellie was covered in daisies of all colours, vibrant and light.

We started to pick some and do some art with them, and then I asked E to take me to see some more of her art. She took me to an exhibition in a large white room. First of all, there were pictures of her artwork on the walls, all depicting the daisies. When I looked at the pictures from different angles, they changed to reveal other colours and shapes. The pictures also had layers, which you could see as you looked at them from different angles.

 Ellie said, "Look, there is so much scope here". Then, still in the exhibition, we began to walk along something that I can only describe as one of those travellators similar to the ones found at airports, but it was made of daisies - it was a moving carpet of daisies. 

Then it became a much more immersive experience as we became miniature people walking in the flowers towering over us. 

Ellie said, "I can do this with so many things. I just chose daisies because it was within your scope to see what could be done, but this is just a tiny bit of what is possible." 

After feeding back to the group, I remembered that I had not said that at the end of the meditation. Ellie handed me a baby swaddled up in a blanket with daisies all over it. This was highly relevant as our elder daughter was actually overdue for the birth of her baby.

A string of beautiful synchronicities unfolded over the next few days:

On 5 April, I shared this meditation in a circle that I am a member of, which was attended by two other members of Zach's house who had already heard about my meditation the previous evening. Just as I was saying that I had missed out the part about Ellie handing down a baby wrapped in a blanket of daisies, S was looking up the spiritual meaning of daisies and was typing in the chat box the meaning of daisies in Norse mythology.

On 6 April, S attended a weekly group with a medium. The medium often gives each person a short message during the meeting. When the medium came to S, the first thing the medium asked her was, "Why is D (S's son) showing me daisies?"  S then shared the story so far with the group.

On 7 April, our daughter went into labour. She intended to have a home delivery, but the baby got stuck, and she was transferred to the hospital, where it was quickly sorted and the baby safely delivered. The name of the midwife who accompanied my daughter in the ambulance and assisted with the birth and is also the named midwife on the baby's paperwork is Daisy! 

On 8 April, I texted S to tell her that the midwife's name was Daisy. Just as she read the text, her godson came in from the garden and gave her a daisy he had picked for her!

On 11 April, S had a Facebook advert pop up that showed the birth flower for each month and discovered that the birth flower for April is Daisy!

On 13 April, S attended the weekly group meeting with the medium. The medium said her son D was saying, "My mum has something to share". S didn't think she had, as she had talked about the daisies last week, and the timeline had become jumbled in her mind. Anyway, the medium persisted, saying that D insisted that she had something to share, and it had to do with flowers. Then, a fellow member of the group, who is also a member of Zach's house, reminded her that although daisies had come up last week, there was more to follow.  S was then able to share about the midwife and the daisy that her godson had given her, wrapping up all of the synchronicities that had occurred following my meditation. 

It was utterly wonderful how this all unfolded from one meditation and shows how connected our children across the veil are with our lives and even those yet to be born.

We can all connect directly with our loved ones across the veil; it just needs practice, patience and belief. 

Alex Day (Ellie's mum)

I have spent many hours exploring the afterlife through a vast range of sources, including books, academic papers, podcasts, online groups, and sessions with mediums. I consider myself a seeker of truth, driven by a desire to understand rather than to comfort myself with illusions. Yet, in all my exploration, I've been struck by the consistency across so many diverse sources of evidence.

In distilling this extensive material, I've come to a few conclusions about our existence, our journey, and our purpose:

1. We are spiritual beings who choose to experience life on earth. Our time here allows us to grow in ways that aren’t possible in the ethereal realm—a place of unconditional love and light.

2. We plan certain “lessons” before birth with members of our soul family and spiritual guides. Members of our soul family join us on earth; we play a part in each other's journeys. Free will also plays a role, meaning not everything is predetermined.

3. Our entire “soul” doesn’t come to earth; a part of us remains in the spiritual realm. During sleep, we reconnect with this part of ourselves, though most of us don’t remember it upon waking. Occasionally, we have vivid, highly memorable, often emotional dreams where our so called deceased loved ones are present. These are visitation dreams.

4. When we “die,” we leave our physical body and return to spirit. Our ethereal or energetic body has a higher frequency and resembles our earthly body at any age we choose. During our transition, our soul family greets us, and we experience a period of rest or healing. A life review follows, where we reflect on events from our perspective and the perspectives of others. This is a reflective learning exercise that helps our spiritual growth and contributes to the growth and development of the soul family.

5.  "We may choose to reincarnate," planning another life with our soul family to challenge ourselves or to support other members of our soul family to continue the journey of spiritual growth.

Conducting your own research and having personal experiences are essential in forming a genuine, well-rounded understanding of the afterlife, for several reasons:

1. Personal Validation: Firsthand experiences can offer a level of authenticity and emotional resonance that others' accounts cannot. When you experience something personally, it allows you to develop a deeper, more confident belief in what you’ve discovered.

2. Individual Perspectives: Views on the afterlife are deeply personal and vary widely among cultures, beliefs, and individuals. Researching and exploring on your own helps you create a unique, personalized perspective rather than adopting a belief system that may not fully resonate with you.

3. Emotional Comfort and Clarity: Engaging in this process can provide comfort and solace, especially if you are grieving or seeking to connect with loved ones who have passed. It can also lead to greater clarity and peace of mind, regardless of whether your conclusions affirm or challenge traditional beliefs.

4. Skepticism and Critical Thinking: Doing your own research sharpens critical thinking skills and helps to distinguish between genuine insights and misleading information. This can lead to a more grounded and well-considered understanding of what life after death might mean for you.

5. Open-Minded Exploration: When you take charge of your own exploration, you’re more open to whatever answers come. Whether you find validation in scientific studies, spiritual practices, or personal experiences, self-driven discovery helps prevent external biases from swaying you prematurely.

Exploring life after death is a personal journey; by actively participating in it, you create a view that feels truly yours, grounded in your own findings and experiences.